Abusive Relationship - Taken for Granted

Abuse for many couples starts of very subtle and are taken for granted as the person having a bad day only to amplify to the point that it is difficult to get out of the abusive relationship.
See the signs
You may have see the signs but choose to ignore it hoping that with time things will change and the person will be more understanding because of the love they have for you.
Do you feel the other is right?
In many abusive relationships the person who is being abuse feels that the abuser is right because they have come to trust the other and give up their power to the abuser.
You may say to yourself that the other person cares for you and knowing that you would like the relationship to be how it was in the beginning because you felt the other person understood you and showed how much they cared for you.
Is the person controlling how much you eat?
Is the person in your life controlling how much you eat because they want you to be a certain weight?
Do you feel that they are right to control your weight otherwise you will forget and over eat because you do not have the ability to do so on your own?
Controlling where you go
If you find that your partner is controlling where you go, where, what, when and with whom, then you are giving up your power your identity to another.
You may feel if you do not check in that your partner will not love you or that others will be hurt on account of you is no way to live your life in fear.
Do you have difficulty stating your needs?
Do you have difficulty stating your need in the relationship for fear that you would be put down or not taken seriously if yes then there is a problem in your relationship.
Refuse to change
You may feel that the person that you once fell in love with will want to put you first and make the relationship work only to see this is not through and yet you hold out hoping that the person will come around.
You got married and you agreed for better or for worst and you decided to stick it out hoping the person will come around, you are seeing how it is affecting your children and how it has an effect on them because you grew up in an environment like this and you still refuse to change.
It takes courage
You may be afraid to make a move because you do not know where to go because you do not have money for you and your children.
Reaching out to neighbors can help, calling on government agencies and private shelters are here to help you get back on your feet.
This is the time for you to reach out for help, you are not a failure because you ask for help, it takes courage to face an abusive person and walk away for all that mind controlling that takes place.
Conclusion : When you are in an abusive relationship it is hard to see your way through it because of the mind control your abuser has on you yet it is not impossible to break the bond with courage and persistence.