Don't you want to know the answer? Why is our relationship failing? Why can't things work? Why is this happening to me? Why can't I stop thinking about him/her? Why? Why? There are a thousand questions that are going through your head. Well I want to let you know, there are answers. So take a deep breath and hold it for a few seconds *Deep Breath In 5...4...3...2...1... and out* Alright, hopefully that helped you feel a little better. You are not alone in this situation, the fact of the matter is break ups, divorces and all around couples fighting are increasing. Depending on what side of the fight, divorce, break up or argument you are on, depends on how you feel and see things. You are probably hurt, and gosh darn it you have a right to be! Yet you need to see both sides to get your relationship working again, which can be hard but with the right help it can be done in some easy to follow steps.
There is no quick fix, and do not be fooled if there is someone that says there is. There are ways to start making it better quickly but no 100% fix right away. I am sure you have heard the saying "Time heals all wounds" it might sound cliche but don't you feel as if you need some time to think? You need time, they need time, however time is also one of the obstacles of trying to get back together after a break up. Wait too long, they think you don't care anymore. Go in too fast, and it makes you look desperate and at fault. There are quite a few ways to give yourself, and your significant other time without a set amount but both of you will be accepting when one reaches out for the other.
One thing that I can not stress enough, is that you will be okay! It might not feel like it right now, but with or without them you will be okay. Although I want you to be happy again WITH them. There are many different kinds of "breaks" and "break ups" and it is hard no matter which one it is. Feeling alone, helpless, scared, sad, tired, angry, all of the emotions rolled into one giant tangled ball. Well lets untangle that ball and deal with your emotions first. Again, just take a deep breath in, hold it and let it out.... okay now let it out. You might think I am stupid for doing the deep breaths. Maybe you have even been told to do that before. However in my experience... IT HELPS! And if you don't feel like doing them, hey that is alright, it is your choice, you're in control here.
A problem with some of the advice you can get online is that they tell you what to do. Well don't you also need to know what NOT to do? Yes you do, it is just as important as what to do. Some things you might not even think about but are important. Such as not texting or instant messaging as your means to talk about the problem during the fight. Or not calling them 100 times giving them 100 different angry, sad or frustrated voice mails. You need to make a plan of action on how to take care of the situation. Sounds kind of weird, but it is true. Most important decisions, especially in a business you need to make a step by step program on how you are going to get what you need and take care of it. Yet you are probably distraught during the fight, so wouldn't you want someone else to show you the steps to take and you can just follow them? Of course, at least that is what I would want so it would be easier on me. I have used a few eBooks that are available online. Some free, some are not.
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