Thursday, January 15, 2009

Love Letters to Write to a Boyfriend

Nothing quite says "I love you" like love letters. Write to a boyfriend a beautiful love letter - and you just might make him fall more deeply in love with you than he already is! Think love letters are too mushy (and therefore unappreciated) by most men? Think again: in my experience, even some of the toughest-acting guys I have known melted like butter after receiving love letters that follow my simple recipe.
If you are interested in writing love letters to your boyfriend, you might be feeling a bit intimidated by the whole thing. After all, writing is hard, right? Well, not necessarily. If you follow these 5 simple steps you can't go wrong, and your boyfriend will like putty in your hands:



1. Get into the right mood:
As any writer will tell you, what we write is greatly affected by our mood and our surroundings. To write a successful love letter to your boyfriend, start by getting your head and heart in the right place. Do whatever it takes to get yourself into a mellow, giving mood. Some of the things I do to get into the romantic writing mood include: putting on soft music, lighting incense, taking a warm bath, or even dressing in my favorite lingerie or negligee before sitting down to write. By doing these things, a subtle transformation comes over me and I am in the right place, mentally and physically, to write a love letter to my boyfriend.
2. Use beautiful stationery:
A few words about the writing medium you choose. First -and hopefully this goes without saying - be sure to refrain from e-mailing or texting your love letter to your boyfriend! For some things in life, the formal path is the better option - and writing love letters is one of those things. Nothing says "I didn't care enough to send the very best" than does an e-mailed love letter!
Second, make sure you choose beautiful stationery for your romantic literary creation. Soft whites are my favorite. Be sure to avoid flashy or gaudy colors. And, I suggest using black ink (brown ink is a close second). Since good stationery can be pricey, be sure to practice writing out your letter on scrap paper until you are satisfied with the words you have chosen. Then, write it out onto your good stationery when you think you are ready to create the final draft.
3. Make it substantive with good content:
Okay, now the tough part - the content. What should you write about? I suggest choosing a specific, simple theme and then sticking to it throughout your letter. Example themes include: recalling how you felt when the two of you first met, and, colorfully recounting a special dinner you had together.
Unless you truly excel at poetry, I suggest avoiding writing your own poems. Feel free to include part of a favorite love poem, but don't make that the main substance of your love letter to your boyfriend. Rather, stick to your main theme (see above) and write just a few paragraphs. Focus primarily on how you feel and how he makes you feel. Tell him how romantic he makes you feel, and relate those feelings back to your theme.
4. Use flowery language:
Even you are likely not a poet or a professional romance writer, this doesn't mean you should avoid poetic-sounding language. Have a little fun with your letter. Sprinkle flowery-sounding phrases like "our love," "your scent," "deep feelings," and "true to you" here and there in your letter. He will be impressed, and these words will add to the overall ambience of your letter.
5. Re-write your letter a few times before sending:
Your love letter will not be perfect on the first try. In fact, you may end up writing your letter five or more times before it sounds right (see my suggestion above about using scrap paper). Hint: between each version, let your letter sit for a few hours or days and then re-read it. When you do, any particularly awkward phrases will jump out at you - those phrases should be the first to go. After a few re-writes, your letter should improve significantly.
Once you have completed your love letter to your boyfriend, it is time to send it off. If he already loves you, he will love you even more for the gesture. If he had been doubting the depth of your feelings for him, your letter should help remove that doubt. A well-written, thoughtful love letter can help strengthen any relationship, and it can bring the two of you closer than ever.

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