Saturday, September 17, 2011

Tips for online dating success


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People have always looked for ways to enrich and improve their lives by





finding a friend, lover or partner. However, in our busy modern world, it can





be difficult to find time and energy to meet a partner the conventional way.





That's why internet dating has become so enormously popular for singles all





over the world. And it's not hard to see why. More and more people turn to





dating websites: both paid and free





dating sites
, rather than traditional places like churches, social clubs





and friends' circles.





The internet offers a fast communication system. People with a common





interest can almost immediately start messaging others looking for the same





thing. The internet is an extremely time saving, cost effective, economical





and anonymous medium. You don't have to a be rich, high profile movie star





or a well known sports person to be on the internet and meeting people.





Everyone is equal in cyberspace, and everyone has an equal chance to succeed.





That is, if you know how!





It all comes down to knowledge and expertise. No matter how great and trendy





the technology is, it is you who has to make use of the knowledge, and only





you can take the initiative. Technology only helps us, as a means to make





dating services quicker and often cheaper than what was once possible.





Online dating success is more likely when you have polished practical





communication skills. There is no single solution for effective online





conversation with another person. In the article that follows, I've listed





some important points to get you started. And of course the more points you





follow, the more you will succeed at internet dating.





Let's start with your own profile on an internet dating website (most dating





websites require that you set up a 'profile' about yourself, to display to





others who are searching for someone). What you've written in your profile's





self-description is very important.





You may start a great online conversation with someone you like, but if they





look at your profile and see a clumsy presentation (like thousands other





profiles), I guarantee the conversation will not last long!





A poorly-written profile gives the impression that you're not serious about





dating. And remember, you profile doesn't have to be 100% honest. There is a





difference between being honest and being careful about the information you





present. Be honest about your best personal qualities, but not about personal





details such as telephone number, address, workplace and so on. Share that





private information with your online friend later, when you trust them more.





There are no 'good' or 'bad' dating website profiles. But there are '





effective' and 'ineffective' ones! If you are on a dating site and about to





write your own profile, work hard to create one of the effective ones. All it





takes is few extra minutes of thinking, and some planning. Actual writing





time will be the same, whatever profile you write (effective or ineffective).





A few extra minutes can therefore make a world of difference.





Your description should be a pleasing combination of funny and unique. Humor





nearly always attracts someone's attention, and the more you can describe





your unique character, the better. And the profile should not be too long, or





too short. And be particular. For example, don't write 'I love expensive





cars' but 'I'm interested in Ferraris and Porsches'. Being more specific





about interests and hobbies will invite further discussion from people





viewing your profile). It's a good idea to create your profile in a word





processor first, and use that software's 'spell check' feature. People expect





to read well-written descriptions with good English and correct spelling.





Think about your profile's title. The title is the part of your profile that





people first see when searching a dating website. It's like a personal '





headline' about you. A bad title might be: 'horny stud is looking for a sexy





chick'. A catchy title: 'Skydiving accountant looking for a down-to-earth





business lady'.





Contact someone whose profile has no picture or/and description - don't





underestimate this. You have far less competition when communicating with





people who have blank profiles. People with complete profiles get lots of





messages, so consider contacting people without pictures or a complete





profile.





Profiles with picture and a description - these require a different strategy





and approach. You will need more patience and persistence, because you are





competing with many other messages for this person's attention.





Be smart and use the information from the other person's profile as your





starting point for a message to them. Find out from their profile what they





like most. Follow-up on what they like, as a conversation starter. It could





be their new mobile phone or music album, or even a favourite holiday





location or restaurant that you are also familiar with.





It's also a good idea to ask intelligent questions that avoid a simple 'yes'





or 'no' reply. Try to make the other person express their opinion on a topic.





Instead of asking something like: "Do you like ABCD band?" try this: "What do





you think about ABCD's last hit?"





Use jokes appropriately. Avoid saying something funny/offensive about well-





know people, unless you are 100% sure the other person has a similar view. Be





creative and add some funny sentences to your messages. This will keep your





online friend attracted to you, and they will want to continue the





conversation.





Don't wait for other people to contact you. Make an effort to start a





conversation with someone whose profile caught your eye.





Be determined to achieve your goal. Start by making a realistic plan, perhaps





breaking it into measurable steps first. Approach online dating with a





positive attitude. Something like: 'I will only leave this particular dating





site when I've met someone I really like.'





Write individualised messages to people you contact. Don't send impersonal,





generic or ready-made messages. People spot these right away, usually by the





way text mis-aligns in your message (text that has been copied and pasted has





different alignment). Or by content that might not be relevant to their





profile details.





Write a few sentences in your messages. Don't just say 'hi, how are you? or '





hi, you look gorgeous!' People receive lots of short messages, and they won't





be impressed if you send yet another one.





Avoid writing long messages. It can annoy people as much as short one. It's a





mistake to write a long message containing everything you want to say. Bear





in mind what the other person wants to hear! An overly long or self-indulgent





message will often not receive a reply.





Show the person you chatting with that you care about them. It will put you





in a better position than other candidates. Do this by being empathetic, and





interested in their life.





Contact one person at a time. Doing this means you'll be more prepared, and





more focused. If you're more prepared, you're more likely to receive a reply,





which could lead to a ongoing conversation online.





Always have your best photos displayed in your profile. Update them regularly.





Make sure there are a few of them. At least one must be a recent portrait.





One full-length photo is also a good idea. It's a bonus if you're smiling in





the photos! Having photos online will considerably increase traffic and





therefore your chances of meeting someone. People often reluctant to contact





somone without a photo.





Be prepared to follow-up on every message you send. If the person you're





contacting hasn't replied in a few days, write another message, and keep it





friendly. Don't be demanding. Tell the person you're waiting for a reply and





you'd like to hear from them, so you can hear whether they are not interested





in you, or not. Don't keep sending further messages if you don't receive a





reply to your second message. Some people will only send a reply IF they are





interested in you. If you don't hear from someone, you can assume it is a 'no'





from them.





The last and one of the most important tip is never give up. This is easier





said than done! Remember that persistence brings success - there are no





shortcuts. Keep in mind that online dating does work - many people have met





their marriage partner from dating websites.





Follow the above tips to increase your chances of online dating success. Once





you gain experience and polish, you will definitely see results. Happy dating!



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