Monday, July 7, 2008

Four Mistakes to Avoid When Seducing Women

If you are new to the dating game or are a single guy who has not had the best luck in attracting women then you this article is for you. There are many ways to impress a woman when you first meet them and it is definitely true that first impressions count. For this reason you need to be aware of some of the common mistakes that men make when trying to pick up women. Hopefully by eliminating these you will go on to enjoy a lot more female attraction. This article will help you by highlighting four of the most common mistakes made.
Perhaps the worst thing that any guy can do after meeting a woman that they want to seduce is to make your intentions obvious. A woman loves to feel wanted, that's for sure, but they do not want you to give yourself right away. Instead they want to feel like there is a challenge to overcome. When you meet the woman try to show a little mystery and this will get her curiosity going.
Once you are able to start a conversation with a woman then you need to avoid the second mistake. Your ability to communicate with her will be the basis on which she decides to meet up with you again in the future. In this respect you need to avoid appearing too shy and also not overconfident. The guy has to strike a fine balance between the two otherwise she is likely to lose interest very quickly.
You can achieve this by avoiding talking about yourself too much and instead allowing her to tell you about herself. Listen to what she has to say and try to ask interesting questions that will in turn stimulate her interest in you. By encouraging a natural conversation you will avoid appearing nervous or arrogant.
A third common mistake is to initiate physical contact too early. This is a big no-no as if you do it prematurely you instantly appear sleazy and only interested in sex. Instead you need to learn how to understand the woman's body language. A woman will usually send out subtle hints such as lots of touching of the arms, eye contact and looking at your mouth and lips as signs that she would like closer contact with you. This can be hard to judge at first, but with experience you will be able to recognize whether a woman is interested in you or not.
The final most common error is to talk about your past relationships. This may appear an obvious mistake, but it is a tripwire that most women will throw up in order to measure what kind of partner you might be. Once again you will need to strike a balance. If you speak about your ex-partners in a negative fashion by blaming them for the end of the relationship or perhaps stressing her negative traits then your potentially new girlfriend will be thinking that you will repeat this for her one day.
Likewise, if you refer to your ex-partner in a positive light by reciting past memories that you shared and how you wish things had been different then the woman will be convinced that you should be with your ex and not her. In this situation the best advice would be to give a short balanced account of the past and emphasizing a mutual, friendly separation. This way she will feel that you are decent and fair guy.
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