Great Tips For Saving Money On Your Wedding

Great Tips For Saving Money On Your WeddingA wedding held today may be twice as expensive as an identical wedding held six months from now, or half the price. It all depends on the season. Holidays, the weather, and tourism all affect the prices and availability of services you may want to reserve for your wedding. Ask about seasonal price changes when you are pursuing general information.Allow yourself plenty of time to consider several seasons for your wedding. This might mean up to a year of waiting and planning, but you can save a lot of money with careful research in this area.Ask about seasonal charges for the ceremony location. More popular wedding months may see a rise in location fees.Ask about seasonal charges for the reception location as well. Again, busier wedding months may mean the manager has boosted - or dropped - package rates.

The season of your wedding also determines if you will have weather factors to consider. Are you planning an outdoor wedding during the rainy season? If so, the garden tea party you found to be so much less expensive than the sit-down dinner will wind up costing you much more than you had planned when you have to move everyone and everything indoors. What about the air conditioning or heat you'll have to provide?Will it be the stormy time of year where you are planning to spend your honeymoon? A great deal of money is wasted if you lose a day or two of your vacation because a flight was delayed by a hurricane. So consider the seasonal weather when you plan your wedding and honeymoon.The travel industry is also controlled by seasonal rates. Off-season airfare and hotel reservations can amount to hundreds of dollars' savings over high-season tourist prices. Check with your travel agent about seasonal travel prices when you begin your planning, or check directly with airlines and hotels.Holidays also affect the price of travel for the bride and groom and for family and friends who will come from miles away to share your day with you. Either travel and lodging fees will soar skyward due to holiday visiting, or special holiday travel packages may be offered to lure passengers away from competitors. Research holiday travel rates thoroughly before you plunk down a few thousand on Memorial Day weekend.

You might be able to get a better deal at another time.Another way to facilitate travel: Plan your wedding for the weekend of a family gathering or reunion. Everyone will be in the general area, and they'll get two great events for one trip. One bride found that when she moved her wedding date to an earlier weekend, more of her guests would be in the area after a family party, and she saved over a thousand dollars in travel and lodging for her guests.The season of your wedding will also affect the price of the flowers you choose for your bouquets and decorations. Blooms and plants are usually cheaper when they are in season, so consider your florist bill when you set a date on the calendar.

Furthermore, a wedding planned for Valentine's Day faces an increased charge for much-in-demand roses. Sixty-dollar bouquets on Valentine's Day go for less than twenty dollars the day after, so imagine what your wedding flowers will cost.Prices and types of food on the wedding menu will also be affected by the season. Warmer days mean lighter, simpler foods, and certain types of seafood are less expensive when in season.Which months are the best to consider? It's hard to say. May through August is the busiest and high demand usually means inflated prices and slimmer choices. December, too, is a popular month for weddings, and, due to the high prices of the holiday season, it's also costly. Spring break may see a fare hike on airlines. Graduation time may mean caterers and entertainers are busy with those celebrations. So what's left? January through April as well as September to November. Be careful, though. These may be the natural down time for the wedding industry, but there's no guarantee that rates will be better than at the busiest times. In fact, depending on where you are and what kind of wedding season preceded the down time, prices just might be higher. Research is the key.

Engagement Party Games

The engagement party is a time when the families of the couple will get to know one another. In some cases, this might be the first meeting between the two families or groups of friends and any icebreaker activity will be a welcome event.In that light, whoever plans the engagement party (likely the bride's family, but it can be the engaged couple or anyone else who wants to plan the party) should plan a few games and activities designed to help everyone get to know everyone else.



First up is a trivia game. Create a "Trivial Pursuit" type game with questions about the bride and groom's lives. You might contain the questions to just facts and events relating to both the bride and groom (such as how long did it take her to say "yes" when he asked, where did he propose, where did they meet, etc), or you can include questions pertaining to their lives outside of each other and before they met each other. Not only can this be fun, but also it's an entertaining way for people to get to know each other and the engaged couple better.One popular icebreaker that's used at corporate functions and company parties can also work really well at engagement parties. Tape a card to each person's back and encourage him or her to work the room, mingle with everyone and particularly try to get to know someone they have never met before. Before moving on to someone else, be sure to make a comment about the person on the card on his or her back. Partiers write an impression of that person, such as "she seems sweet" or "he knows a lot about the weather". This icebreaker ends when the mingling session is over. The cards are then read one by one and people not only get to know each other better, but enjoy hearing all the comments people made about them.
Try to ensure that comments are complimentary or somehow presented in a positive light. Hurtful comments, obviously, are not appropriate.If this is truly the first time many of the guests have met, then another fun game involving the wearing of cards might be in order. In this game, each guest wears a card on their front that has their name on the front and a number on the back. They don't share with anyone what their number is. Guests mingle and chat and get to know each other over the course of the evening. Toward the end of the evening, the cards are flipped over and the number side is shown. Everyone gets a piece of paper and writes the numbers on the paper, then tries to correspond the name of someone with their number. This fun game can be hard for people who are bad with names, but it's fun nonetheless.For an activity that doesn't put people on the spot quite so much, consider letting the already marrieds help out the to-be marrieds.
Place two pieces of posterboard on the wall and mark them "advice from women" and "advice from men". Now is the time to offer advice about wedding planning, not about being married. That advice can come later. Encourage guests to offer their own wedding planning advice. The advice from older people at the party could be decidedly different from the younger couples in the group, making for an enlightening group of comments.

Is Jealousy Destroying Your Relationship?

Jealousy is a common problem that couples present when they go to counseling. When one partner chooses jealous behaviors, the dynamics of the relationship change. They are no longer a couple in an Adult Relationship.
Now they are caught in a cycle of Investigator and Suspect. The Investigator spends an enormous amount of energy checking up on the Suspect, who may or may not be doing anything reprehensible. The Suspect spends time defending and explaining his/her behaviors. They are locked in a pattern which will destroy their relationship and they usually don’t what to do.
Both partners are miserable playing this game. The game is all about Control. "If I don’t check up on her, she'll make me look stupid" or "He'll make a fool of me." People who choose jealous behaviors may not realize that their behavior looks pretty silly or even crazy. Their partner didn't "make" them look stupid.

I was actually told by several women that "all men cheat." If this is your belief, you are probably an Investigator. Problem is: you have to sleep sometime. You can’t chain yourself to your partner. You have decided that you alone are capable of controlling your partner’s behavior. What’s more, you've decided it's your Job as his partner to keep him from cheating on you.
What a way to live your life, spending your time spying on each other! Trust is a decision. It’s not based on how the other person acts. If you choose to stay with a partner who is not trustworthy, you are doing so with your eyes open. If you are choosing jealousy without cause, you are doing so to control your partner.
The very things you do to control your partner are the things that will drive your partner away. Are you ready to try something different?
Keep in mind that jealous behavior is a choice you are making. It starts with your thoughts: I wonder where he is. She’s probably with someone right now. Why didn't he call me when he said he would? Why is she wearing that dress? Who was that woman who called him?
These thoughts lead to your behaviors, such as calling excessively (read, more than twice during work hours), listening in on phone conversations, checking phone lists and emails, interrogating your partner, and many other destructive behaviors.
You begin to feel awful after imagining all of the things your partner is doing (these are thoughts; you can change them). You can also change your behaviors if you choose to. If jealously is destroying your relationship, there is hope if you are willing to do the work.
First, if you're with someone who is trustworthy, you can change the thoughts that are plaguing you. Whenever you get those thoughts that start your heart racing, ask yourself the following questions:
What evidence is there that my thought is true?What evidence is there that my thought is false?What would someone else say about this thought?What other explanation could there be?
After you answer these questions, decide what new course of action you will take based on this exercise. Repeat this as often as needed. Hopefully, you will soon find yourself feeling calmer and less ready to play the Investigator and Suspect game.

Marrying Sex With Soul

Sex used to be about sex—and sometimes about love. “Soul” used to be about church—and sometimes about spirituality. But today, in a combination that Baby Boomer spouses could never have imagined, couples are increasingly looking for sexual relationships that include spiritual connection, while spiritual seekers are consciously making their sex lives part of their spiritual odyssey.
This change in emphasis is chronicled in a fascinating new anthology, The Marriage of Sex and Spirit (http://www.MarriageOfSexAndSpirit.com). It contains sage advice from many best-selling authors, including John Gray, Riane Eisler, Deepak Chopra, Margot Anand, Wayne Dyer, and others. It embraces perspectives from the theological (Thomas Moore) to the mythological (John Welwood) to the downright raunchy (David Deida). Collectively, they have some good advice about engendering a spiritual-sexual connection in a relationship. Among their tips are these:
Change Your Life Script
We all act out of concepts of who we are: The Temptress, the Good Guy, the Amazon Warrior Woman, the Rescuing Knight, and so on. We establish these archetypes early in life, and live out of the scripts they provide. When we’re in a crisis, or in a new relationship, we often pull out the old reliable script and read our familiar lines—even if they’ve brought disaster every time in the past.
Yet our scripts are choices. They are not engraved into our personalities; they can be changed. They are difficult to change, but with effort, we can identify our scripted behaviors. How? We are comfortable with them. They feel familiar to us, while other behavior seems strange when we try it. Throwing away the old script and picking up a new, and less dysfunctional one, is an act of great courage. Under pressure, acting differently is difficult, but with practice, by sticking to it, we can make the new and better script a habit.
Slow, Slower, Slowest
In an African village, a friend of mine was renting a bicycle from a bush peddlar. “It has three gears,” the tribesman explained: “Slow, slower, slowest.” That’s a good metaphor to apply to sex, even when we’re hot and bothered and want to jump right into it.
The beauty of slow is that it works whether your sex life is like a pile of cold ashes, or like a raging inferno. A long slow session of non-sexual touching and massage can often kindle desire where there was none before. It can also prolong the pleasure when the desire to jump into intercourse is unbearably strong. Either way, slowing down forces you to connect with the spiritual and soul aspects of your partner, and integrates them with the sex act.
Find the Diamonds Among the Gravel
Your old relationships may have been full of pain or even abuse. Learning to find the lessons in them, and growing from them, has many benefits. One is that once you’ve learned a lesson (like boundaries) the hard way, you’re unlikely to forget it. Another is that if you consciously find the good in people and situations in your past, you are training yourself to focus on the good qualities in your current partner.
When you look beyond the gravel of your partner’s ego and personality, you can often see the deeper and more spiritual aspects. Chances are, those are the very diamonds that attracted you to that person in the first place. Their personality patterns might annoy you no end. But if you focus on those patterns, you just buy yourself more annoyance. And when you shift your perspective to their soul qualities, all the passion of the earliest parts of the relationship might just come rushing back.
Breathing From Your Heart
New scientific research is showing that the neurological loop between heart and brain is strengthened by moving your attention into the center of your chest. When you shift your focus from thinking (say, during an argument, or during foreplay) to your heart, physiological changes occur that make you feel more integrated. You inhabit your body more fully. It is especially effective to imagine your breath coming into your heart on the inbreath, and leaving your heart on the outbreath. Such “heart breathing” can shift the dynamics of an argument, center you during an excess of sexual passion, and bring your attention back to your partner when it’s wandering somewhere else.
Any of these techniques can help change a relationship. Some techniques work better for some people, others work better for others. Play around to find the ones that work best for you. And just doing something—anything—differently from your usual pattern shifts the dynamics of a couple, and opens up a space for fresh and healthier interactions.
http://www.MarriageOfSexAndSpirit.com

Free Tips on Valentine’s Day Barbecue Checklist

Valentine’s day is just around the corner and it’s time for us men to get our act together and spoil our wives, partners, fiancées and girlfriends. St Valentine is the patron saint of lovers so it’s time to show our love so I’ve jotted down a few ideas and reminders of some of the things you can do but remember I am the “Barbecue Smoker Recipe Man” so there’s a BBQ slant to that all important point about how to cook a meal for your loved one.
First let’s cover the basics, and remember guys, this is entry level. In her eyes this isn’t nice to have, it’s MUST have!

It’s always good to start with a card, in fact if you forget the card then you might as well forget the rest of the day. Flowers are the other essential and red roses are traditional but this year maybe it’s time for change. I’m going for lilies simply because the red rose is a bit predictable, there’s always the dilemma about how many to get but the main reason for me is that lilies provide such a great splash of colour.
The final essential is the meal. We’re having a great start to the year, whether it’s down to Global warming or not I don’t know my this year is turning out to be one of the mildest on record and so many of my friends are already turning to the barbecue. I know I will be, but if you do please remember that especially when it comes to a Valentine’s Day Barbecue you really must break the sexual stereotype! If you haven’t grasped it yet, check out the BBQ rules below and make sure you don’t end up in the same situation!
BBQ RULES
We are about to enter the spring and BBQ season. Therefore it is important to refresh your memory on the etiquette of this sublime outdoor cooking activity.
When a man volunteers to do the BBQ the following chain of events are put into motion:
Routine...
(1) The woman buys the food.(2) The woman makes the salad, prepares the vegetables, and makes dessert.(3) The woman prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the necessary cooking utensils and sauces and takes it to the man who is lounging beside the grill - beer in hand.
Here comes the important part:
(4) THE MAN PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL.
More routine...
(5) The woman goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery.(6) The woman comes out to tell the man that the meat is burning. He thanks her and asks if she will bring another beerwhile he deals with the situation.
Important again:
(7) THE MAN TAKES THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO THE WOMAN.
More routine...
(8) The woman prepares the plates, salad, bread, utensils, napkins, sauces, and brings them to the table.(9) After eating, the woman clears the table and does the dishes.
And most important of all:(10) Everyone PRAISES the MAN and THANKS HIM for his cooking efforts.(11) The man asks the woman how she enjoyed "her night off." And, upon seeing her annoyed reaction, concludes that there's just no pleasing some women...
Happy Valentine’s Day!

Transforming Our Relationships By Loving Ourselves

How can we transform our relationships--making them closer, more intimate, more creative, more satisfying?
I've seen that happen in my own life. And the change came, not from working on the relationships, but from loving myself.
What's made the difference: love for myself, comfort with who I am, the feeling of being on my own path, and knowing what I feel and what I want.
When I love myself, I still enjoy and want love from the other person, but I don't feel desperate for it, like I'd disappear if I didn't get it. I don't feel like I'd do anything, even try to be someone I'm not, just to be loved.

When I feel comfort with who I am, I can feel right away if I'm still comfortable when I'm with this other person. I can judge a potential partner not by looks or achievements, but by whether I feel even more myself when I am with him.
When I have the feeling of being on my own path, satisfied with and excited by what I am doing in my life, I'm not going to be jealous of my partner's accomplishments or needing him to be smaller so I don't get too anxious. Nor will I need him to accomplish more so I can ride along on the accomplishment wagon.
When I know what I feel and what I want, then I can communicate my desires -- and be open to hearing what my partner wants as well. When I know what I want and I trust that, I don't end up resenting the other person because I haven't said what I needed and they didn't read my mind.
Perhaps the biggest gift I've received in the relationship area was the certainty that grew in me after many years of inner work, that the other person's feelings belong to them.
Growing up in an alcoholic/codependent family, I soaked up the idea that when Dad was depressed, it was the job of all the rest of us to handle his feelings for him. My mother didn't show her feelings at all, so I had her feelings for her too.
When I started getting into relationships, it was nearly automatic to believe my partner's fears and angers were my fault and my responsibility. In the resulting tangle, no wonder it was hard to feel myself.
I even thought that's what "love" meant!
Many years of inner work using a process called Focusing have shifted all this for me. I can sit with my partner when he's upset, but it doesn't become my upset. It belongs to him. When my nephew is in tears over his own relationship woes, I am there... but I don't offer advice unless he asks, because that's his feeling, not mine.
The space I have for connecting with others is much bigger now, because I am myself, not all the people around me. It feels great!

Free Tips on Setting Goals To Find A Romantic Relationship

As you spend another Saturday night glued to the television, don’t expect Mr. or Mrs. Right to walk through the screen. Without setting goals to locate the love of your life, you'll continue to remain lonely until you put your best foot forward by outlining a plan for success. One of the best ways to open new doors for relationships is to seek out situations that add a little spice in your life.
It is highly suggested that you work on personal development and exercise better social skills that allows you to meet a fresh crop of good friends who may later turn into great companions and lovers. Below you will find a few suggestions on how to set goals for romantic relationship searching:


1) Look Around You
One of the most common ways that people forge new friendships is by tapping into their own cluster of close friends and family members, as their immediate social connections can provide a gateway to a whole new dating pool. You never know when you will find the next love of your life by asking your best friends, siblings, co-workers, and neighbors if they know of any single, available friends. You'd be surprised how many people have found husbands and wives in a blind date.
2) Join a Social Group
Make it a point to seek out a social group or "club" that shares the same interests as you. The advantage of joining this sort of "community" is that whoever is a part of the group already shares something in common with you, which makes for great conversation. This is one of the easiest ways to never run out of things to say because you will always have a platform of discussion to rely on.
Many people develop love interests within these types of groups, which often meet on a regular basis. Today, a wide-range of social groups exist, including interests regarding sports, theater shows, politics, scrap booking, photography, and gardening. In many cities, bereavement meetings have served as an effective way for widowers and widows to find a new lease on life.
3) Get Active for a Cause
The passion and intensity in fighting for a cause or volunteering your time with a charity is a good quality to find in a companion. Usually, those who are active in such activities are kind, compassionate, thoughtful, and motivated. When you share this same drive – sky is the limit for you and a new romantic interest. Whether you wish to save the rainforests, cure cancer, fight pollution, or eradicate illiteracy, this same determination can be used to forge a long-lasting bond with another. There are plenty of ways to fulfill this goal, as many clubs, not-for-profit groups, organizations, charities, and churches are situated in every hometown.
4) Be Patient
New relationships, especially the kind that end in romance take time to cultivate and although the process seems to take longer than you would like – you must stay realistic in your goals for finding love. It's not uncommon to experience a long stretch of time before meeting up with a worthy candidate. Also, once you find a satisfying friendship, it is important not to rush into or force a romantic relationship.

Friendship Day Reunion With Old Friends

The most memorable moment in life is when you meet old friends whom you had lost touch midway in the journey of life. You will be overwhelmed with the feeling of emotional detachment, realizing how much you have been missing him or her all these years. Having them around will remind you of all those golden moments that you spent together in the rain, amidst the morning mist or under the scorching sun. It will remind you of those golden moments of sharing lunch together and exchanging your friendship bands.



Friendship day is just around the corner and you can plan for a grand reunion and arrange for a rocking get together with all your old friends on Friendship Day 2007. Celebrate your reunion with enthusiasm full to the brink. Share all your emotions that you had stored for them for this long span of time. So just go ahead with your plan for celebrating a reunion on this Friendship Day and make the day an unforgettable episode of your life. All you need to do is gather all the contact details of your old friends and kick start the exciting venture.
Collect The Contact Details
This era of technology has made it a lot easier for you to reach out to your lost friends instantly with your plan. Take out some time from your leisure moments and sit with all your old notebooks, dairies and arrangers. Take out all the phone numbers, email addresses, and mailing address of all those golden people whose memories have been haunting you since years. Get the information noted down carefully on a piece of paper.
Contact Them
An amazing way to bring them closer once again after such a long span of time is to send them cute ecards through email wishing them all the good wishes and heart felt love. Remember that every good thing in life begins with love and hope. Always go for any of the free ecard sites. 123greetings.com is one of the most genuine sites that strike my mind at this moment. You can find wondrous assortment of free ecards – animated or non-animated, musical or non-musical that may prove to be the perfect choice for you to embark on such an exciting venture. Do not forget to write briefly about your plan.
You will be amazed to find that the majority of your friends have answered but do not feel depressed, when you find that someone's email ID does not exist. You can make a telephone call and strike him or her with a sudden wonder. Let them know about your plan and be sure that they cannot afford to loose the opportunity of having a great fun with old friends on this Friendship Day.
Pre-Friendship Day meeting
Arrange for a meeting with friends who stays nearby and who would want to take part in the meeting. This is the most vital part of the story. This get together is not for a regular party. Enjoy the day with a friendly meeting and planning for the reunion celebration on the Friendship Day. Share your thought about the celebration and together come up with a solid decision.
Let The Others Know
One more simple step is left yet. When everything has been finalized inform all other friends about the decision that has been taken in the meeting. Inform them about the venue, time and your plan. Now you are almost done.
Stay in touch with your friends and wait for the day to come. It is on the first Sunday of August and hence every single person is anticipated to join this grand reunion party. Keep yourself prepared before hand with your camera loaded and some extra film and a few dry cells.
If you want to surprise your friends on this Friendship Day by giving small gifts to each one of them start planning now and get them prepared, lest you do not make hast at the end and end up things stupidly. Budgeting is an essential part to be considered.

Dating a Victim of Domestic Violence

Her abusive boyfriend from the past cheated, lied, robbed, raped, abused, and misused her. When you first laid eyes on this gorgeous woman, the last thing you thought was you would be inheriting her wounds from yesteryear. Yet, you did and now you feel at times stuck with both his and her mess. You aren't ready to break up with this woman you love, but you can't see a future with her either. So what do you do about this past baggage that tends to show up on days that you think everything is perfectly okay? The following tips should help you get some peace of mind, reach a decision about the relationship, and help you help her to heal.

There is a big difference between a woman who calls herself a victim of domestic violence and one who calls herself a survivor. The survivor most likely has evolved from her experience and shows no signs of having ever been a victim. She has received the support she needed to move on and has taken the necessary changes to live her life to the fullest. However, a victim has not, will not, or doesn't know how to get pass the experience. She may even still call herself, "a victim." Somehow she continues to play the victim in her words and actions with every challenge that comes before her. She hasn't bothered to get the help she needs, and you may be her only counselor.
Women who have been abused don't necessarily get over everything they have gone through in the past. Some of the residue still remains. She may have some strange behaviors that tend to pop up every now and then. If he robbed her, she is possessive about her belongings. If he raped her, then she may have sexual problems. If he choked or smothered her, she may have problems sleeping at night or you touching, staring, or standing over her her while she sleeps. If he lied about his whereabouts a lot, then she will be bothered when you don't say where you are going and how long you will be gone. If he cheated, then she won't trust you when you say "...that woman is just a friend." If he kept her from seeing or talking to family or friends, then she now feels obligated to tell them everything and not pass up an opportunity to attend a family gathering. If he expected her to report to him about everything she does, then she may tell you more than you ever needed or wanted to know or do the complete opposite and appear secretive. If he beat her, then she may flinch if you playfully try to grab her. These are only a small list of some of the things that trigger her misunderstood behaviors.

Nicholl McGuire

Free Online Dating Services For Relationships & Marriages

Online dating service is not only free, but offer a lot of chances for both male and female date seekers to find their match. It is relatively easy and almost all of you with internet access can find dates through several dating sites available on the internet. With several social networking sites becoming more and more popular these days, looking for date opportunities through the internet could never be easier.
Finding dates through the internet have been so easy that a lot of people, especially females, handle their date seeking process with fewer cautions. Yes, free online dating service do save you from all the trouble of meeting with strangers, since you can get to know the person you are meeting with using chat or messaging features available on most online dating service sites, but it is not an excuse to be careless. You need to properly protect yourself; there are several online stalkers wandering around and the last thing you want is to be their target.


Protecting yourself, when it comes to online dating, is really not easy. The key is to provide sufficient personal information to allow people to get attracted to you, but not too much that you are giving away your privacy. online dating service offers complete safety, especially for female daters, and you should use such safety features to your benefits. It would be alright to post descriptions of you, and maybe provide a picture or two to let potential dates get to know you, but avoid posting personal information such as your phone number publicly. Make sure you take your time to get to know your dates before deciding to meet them. Besides, it will save you from having to go through bad dates, right?
For those of you having problems getting dates offline, online dating service can be the perfect solution for you. There are a lot of handsome men and beautiful women out there who have the same problems you are having, and they are available through online dating service sites. You will be able to chat with them and get to know each other; no more shyness blocking your dating opportunities this time. Once you are comfortable enough with your partner, the two of you can decide to take it to the next step and meet offline. This way, you will be able to protect yourself from all those dating problems and gradually build your confidence. You will be improving your love life without you even noticing. Before you know it, your success in online dating service will aid you with your offline attempts.
As you can see, online dating service offers great opportunities for all of you, both male and female, to be exposed to countless dating partners. You will be able to find the right date in no time. Plus, it is completely free; all you need is a nice cup of coffee and an internet access to get started. What are you waiting for? Explore the internet dating realms and find the kind of date you are looking for all this time. You’ll be surprised to see how easy it could be.

Free Guides on Relationships: Empathy Vs. Responsibility For Feelings

William grew up with a mother who was depressed much of her life. As the oldest of three children with a father who was not around much, William took on a lot of responsibility for his mother's wellbeing. He grew up as a kind and caring man, believing that he was responsible for another's feelings, especially a woman's.
Lauren grew up in a family where she received constant criticism from her father. From the time she was little, she had learned to try to do everything right in order to have control over getting her father's approval and avoiding his disapproval. Lauren learned early in life to make others responsible for her feelings.



As so often happens, William and Lauren got together at their common level of woundedness, with William feeling responsible for Lauren's feelings and Lauren making William responsible for her feelings. But it didn't take long for William to feel engulfed by Lauren's demands and to shut down as a way to protect himself from being controlled by her. The more William shut down, the angrier and more demanding Lauren got, and the angrier Lauren got, the more William shut down. Both felt deeply lonely in the relationship, each reacting to the other's wounded self.
As long as William believed he was responsible for Lauren's feelings, he was unable to feel any of his natural caring and empathy for her. And as long as Lauren believed that William was responsible for her feelings, she was unable to feel any of her natural kindness toward him.
The fact is that we cannot feel both empathy toward another and responsibility for their feelings at the same time. We cannot feel empathy for another when we feel burdened by responsibility for their feelings, or when we believe that the other is responsible for our feelings. As long as William continued to believe that he was responsible for Lauren's feelings, all he knew to do was shut down. As long as Lauren believed that William was responsible for her feelings, all she knew to do was get angry and blaming.
Fortunately, William and Lauren were willing to learn and practice Inner Bonding. William did deep work on understanding the sources of his wounded self's belief that he was responsible for Lauren's feelings, and was eventually able to let go of this false belief, as well as learn how to take responsibility for his own feelings when he felt attacked or pulled on by Lauren. As he developed his loving Adult, he was able to take loving care of himself while staying open and caring about Lauren.
Lauren did her own deep Inner Bonding work to finally let go of her long pattern of making others responsible for her feelings. She discovered that her current feelings of abandonment were not because of William at all, but rather because she so often abandoned herself by ignoring her own feelings. She discovered that the moment she made William responsible for her feelings, she felt abandoned because making him responsible for her feelings was an abandonment of herself. As she learned to take loving care of her own feelings, her anger toward William gradually disappeared.
This is the most important work any individual or couple can do to bring about their own happiness and improve all their relationships. Learning to take responsibility for your own feelings and not for another's feelings is vital for your inner peace, joy and loving relationships.

Free Guides on Wedding Location: Where Will You Wed

Where Will You Wed: Selecting a Wedding Location
Prince Charming proposed, and you accepted. Congratulations! When you share your news with friends and family, immediately after congratulating you and your betrothed, they will ask these two questions: When are you going to get married? And where are you going to get married?
It makes a lot more sense to address selecting a wedding location first because weather changes dramatically between the seasons in most places, and once you choose a location, you can then pick the best season to wed there. A good place to start your search is by thinking about the majority of the guests that you will invite.



Do they all live within a 10-mile radius of your hometown? If so, you might want to consider having the wedding close by, so that all your friends and family won't have to shell out big buckaroos to travel to your wedding location.
What if you live a greater distance from most of your family and friends? Perhaps start by thinking about the feasibility of those you care about traveling to your neck of the woods. Can Grandma fly four hours to attend a wedding on the west coast? Will your high school friends be able to spend the money on flights, and have funds left for accommodations, not to mention a wedding gift for you? If many of your guests won't be able to make it to your wedding location, and they all live generally close to one another, you might decide to go ahead and have the hometown ceremony after all.



If you are not marrying your high school sweetheart, it is much more likely that there will be a great deal of variance in terms of where your guests live. In that case, when you are selecting a wedding location, you can consider getting married in a wedding location that has some special significance for you and your sweetie. For instance, maybe you met during college. In that case, the perfect location for you could be the chapel at your alma mater. Or maybe you met your sweetie at the beach, or are both beach lovers. Your dream wedding location could be to wed on a beach. If you are both avid golfers, the best wedding location could be at the ninth hole on a scenic golf course. If you enjoy skiing, consider getting married at a ski lodge, overlooking the mountain.
There is something very special about a destination wedding, as everyone gets to take a min-vacation to someplace they might not ordinarily visit. If you choose a destination wedding for your wedding location, it is customary to provide your guests with some ideas and tips about fun things to do at or near your wedding location. You can even consider sending out this information a few weeks or months ahead of time to assist your guests in their planning process.
Whatever wedding location you choose, consider what season you are most likely to have the best weather. If possible, go ahead and schedule your wedding for that time of year. And enjoy all your wedding location has to offer!

Free Tips on How to Get Your Lover Back Without Losing Yourself

Getting in and out of relationships is common for many people today. However, many a times you might find yourself stuck in a dilemma. After having lost someone you loved, you suddenly come to realize that he or she plays such a great role in your life that you want him or her back. In other words, you regret ever having broken up the relationship. So, now you need to know how to get your lover back without losing yourself. This is because many people fall into the trap of seeming too desperate or weak, such that it simply turns their ex away, diminishing all the chances of getting anywhere near being a couple again.
There are many things you need to avoid and do before you re-establish contact with your partner.
Firstly, ensure that a reasonable amount of time has passed so that he or she has enough time to think about your relationship. Do not pester her or harass her by calling her or leaving tens of text messages in your lover’s inbox. This is because you want to avoid looking desperate and your lover will definitely need some alone time to reflect. Of course, you should not even think about stalking him or her as it will only ruin all your chances of getting back together. You do not want to be labeled as a “freak” or “stalker” now would you? So be careful of what you do or say as anything in excess of that is not recommended.
Next, avoid losing your personality and who you are. Do not get depressed or give up doing the things that you like because of the break up. Now, your lover used to love you because of who you are and what you can do. So by sliding into a state of depression or quitting your job is not going to impress him or her. In this case, you need to plan your strategy well and live your life to the fullest. Get your life back on track, look your best and improve everything about you. By showing your strong and confident side, your lover will come to see what he or she had lost, and will come to want you back again. Show your lover that you are able to move on and leave a good impression of yourself. This is the best way to get him or her to be interested in you once again.
Then, before you ask your lover out on a date, do make sure that it is a well planned one. Prepare what you are going to say and think of how your lover will react. Do not rush into saying sorry and have nothing else in mind to ease the situation. You could probably let him or her know how much you care, and why the two of you should get back together. Avoid sounding too pushy but give your lover the time and space to think about it.
To make a relationship work you have to be yourself. You do not want to sacrifice everything and be in a miserable relationship. So, waste no more time and pick up the techniques that you need to get your lover back immediately!

Do You Love Yourself 100 Percent?

The keyword here is of course the "100 percent". Surprisingly or not surprisingly, most of us do not love our own selves that much.
Over the years I have come across messages relating to loving yourself and all that. But, it really bought home for me this very question when I finished reading a book by Gay Hendricks. It is titled Learning To Love Yourself. Gay is a professor in counseling psychology and a world renowned author, as I come to know.
Back to the question. Why 100 percent is so important, you might ask. Allow me to share my way of understanding it. I am using "we" to mean each and every one of us (including myself of course) to make the points clearer.
We are carrying an invisible bag of rubbish, the "stuff" that we don't like, don't want to talk about, or even think about. It all relates to past experiences back to even our childhood days. It contains anger, hatred, guilt, argument, reprimand, shame, discontent, distrust, malice, and all those bad things. The problem is that this bag of stuff is getting bigger and bigger, and one day it will haunt us big time.
We need to learn to love ourselves live. By first accepting, and then loving the way we are is the only way to liberate ourselves and to give us the peace inside and out. We have to deal with each of these hidden feelings or stuff one by one. Don't suppress it as we usually do. Recognize it, bring it to the open, experience it in your mind, feel it, and accept it, and love yourself even with it. It is kind of like shaking hands with these stuff, and letting go. Bottom-line, we love ourselves as a whole. It is a wholesome love, not selective love. I tried it and I could feel the relief almost immediately.
Everything happens for a reason. The things we encounter, good or bad, all help to mold us. It is part of our growing up. It completes us. Bad things might not be so bad after all if we learn and become wiser.
Love our enemy by starting loving ourselves. When we liberate ourselves by letting go all those negativities, and loving ourselves in a wholesome manner, our mind and heart are in congruency. We are in peace, at ease, and in harmony. We start seeing thing differently. We appreciate life more.
Live life, JuniusWong

Does My Ex Still Loves Me - Free Tips on How To Find Out?

Dealing with a break up it isn't easy, but dealing with break up when you still in love with your ex it's a lot harder. If you only could find out if he/she feels the same as you, you could easily get back together. I want to give 5 signs your ex is still in love with you and wants to get back together!

Even you had already broke up, he/she still calls you, sends you messages or emails and tries to be in touch with you without some specific or important reason. It doesn't matter how but he or she will find a way to contact you, maybe through your friends.
Ex who wants you back will try to impress you. He/she can change the look, buy some better closes, get better job or something like that. But what is really important that if your partner still wants you, he will find a way to inform you about these positive changes. Think about it, did your ex do something to impress you lately?
Flirting - one of the ways to get your ex back. If your ex flirting with you, that is a big sign he/she wants to get back together with you! Actually if you want your ex back you should use it too.
If you can make him/her jealous - there is love and emotions in your ex's heart! Try that - if you smell a stink of jealous, you also can smell a love there, because you can't make someone jealous if he or she doesn't love you anymore!
If you see your ex always hanging around you, goes everywhere you are - you can be sure your ex is still into you.
But I want to give you the best way to find out if your ex still loves you, I think it's the best way. Why won't you two sit and talk. Overcome your ego, stop playing silly games and looking for signs. You have nothing to be ashamed of. One honest conversation can solve you all the problems! I hope my article helped you! Good luck!
Even if your situation seems hopeless and you feel like it's the end of the world, you have to be stronger and smile because you have a chance to get back together with your lost love!

Get Your Ex Back With These 3 Rock Solid Tips!

The only reason I feel I can give advice about how to get back your ex is because I've learned from all the mistakes I made in previous relationships. If I stopped to think about how I was approaching my ex boyfriends and what things I was saying and doing then I would've realized that none of it was helping me at all.
Here are a few tips I've learned the hard way.
- The first tip is to stop dwelling on the break up. I know it's the last thing you feel like doing because it's so fresh in your mind and hurts so bad but you've got to get off that emotional roller coaster. If you approach your ex in this state you are going to either look desperate or too much work for him/her. It's best to come across calm and composed rather than an emotional wreck. It's easy to think that coming across heartbroken will show how much you care but in reality in does the opposite.
- I know this all seems like torture rather than advice but the next tip is to analyse what went wrong and what led to the break up. Was it one big thing or lots of little things that built up? If getting back your ex is on your agenda then this step is a priority.
- When it comes to meeting your ex make it an informal meet up and tell him/her that you know where you were to blame, point those things out and then let them know you'd like to try again.
If the for some reason this doesn't work, I've just stumbled on a great book that I wish had come out when I was younger. It would have saved me a lot of grief. Anyway, I read and reviewed it and you can read my review below. I think you'll find it helpful.
You really CAN get your ex back. All you need is a solid plan.

Author: Joanne James

Free Tips on How To Attract A Virgo Man

Attracting a virgo man can be frustrating and a hassle. You want someone who is compatible for you and who understands you. So, what I'm going to do is share with you some tips on how to attract a virgo man. That way, you will have the perfect man that you've always wanted.



The 3 simple ways to attract a virgo man are:
1. The first way to attract a virgo man is to pay close attention to the things he likes. He might be a laid back or quiet guy, however he does have a lot of things that really gets him talking and excited. So, pay attention to the things he like, the clothes he wear, and his hobbies.
By paying attention to those qualities in him, you will be able to easily keep him interested in you, because he knows that you are into him and understand the things he likes.
2. Another way to attract a virgo man is to show your confidence in yourself. Men love this in a woman. So, make sure you don't act timid or scared. Also, if you have goals in life, make sure you share them with him. Virgo men are ambitious. Sharing the things you want in life will definitely seem attractive to him.
3. Your beauty and hygiene is another way to attract a virgo man. Make sure you have good hygiene and dress up from time to time. Men are attracted to women who have a good sense of style. Also, men love women who smell good.
These are some ways to attract virgo men. If you are serious about finding you perfect guy, you need to do something about it now. If you don't, you won't ever be able to experience the feeling of true love.

Author: Tony Smith

Free Tips on How To Attract A Sagittarius Man

Attracting a sagittarius man can be a hassle and frustrating. You want a man who you are compatible with and who is perfect for you. So, what I'm going to do is share with you some tips on how to attract a sagittarius man. That way, you will be able to have a guy who is perfect for you and who will give you the world.

The ways to attract sagittarius men are:
1. The first way to attract a sagittarius man is to pay close attention to the things he like. Sagittarius men like to be spontaneous. This means you can do things with him without planning it. Also, pay attention to his hobbies, his clothes, and the things he like to do.
2. Another way to attract sagittarius men is to be mysterious. I'm not talking about being weird or anything like that. But, provide a little mystery to keep him interested. Don't share all of your secrets with him on the first week of going out with him.
Give him a reason to come back for more.
3. Your hygiene and style is another way to attract a sagittarius man. Men love women who care about the way they look. So, make sure you dress up from time to time. Also, get your hair and nails done. Men are attracted to this. And they're also attracting to women who smell good.
These are some ways to attract a sagittarius man. If you are serious about finding your dream man, you should do something about it now. If you don't do something about it now, you won't ever be able to experience the feeling of true love.

Free Tips to Make Your Boyfriend Commit

If you are dating an emotionally unavailable man, you are probably wondering if it is at all possible to make him commit to a relationship with you. Emotionally unavailable man is someone who for some reason is dead set on never committing to anybody. While there are men who are outright players, there are also good honest men who have been burned in the past and are gun shy of commitment. Taming a player is one thing. Making an emotionally unavailable man commit is different.
One of my best friends is forty something year old divorced man. He has two great teenage kids, great friends and otherwise fantastic life. He has got everything he needs, great job, lots of money, and a variety of interests and social circles. Since his divorce six years ago he never wanted to commit to anybody. He had always swore he would never get married again.
He was dating on match.com and other internet dating sites, meeting a variety of women, going out on dates, socializing and once in a while taking a woman home after a date. He has had some sporadic short term relationships, but nothing serious.
Recently I ran into him after not seeing him for some time. I remembered talking to my friend a while ago when he told me he had started seeing someone. Naturally, when I bumped into him recently I asked whether he was still seeing the same woman. Guess what, he told me she had moved in and they were planning to get married.
So, what made a man who was a commitment phobic commit to one woman? The answer is easy. She was a special woman. She wasn't like anyone else he had dated before. To understand the psychological profile of a commitment phobic, check out my post Commitment Phobic Man

Top 5 Online Dating Free Tips for Single Gay Men

Are you single Gay? Are you feeling lonely & worrying about being alone all life? Whether you are out to the world or discreet, every single person on the earth is looking for the love of their life. Right time has arrived with online dating. Especially discreet gay people can benefit a lot from online dating services. To find the right person in Gay world is little tough but possible thing. Online dating service has brought the world closer and helped hundreds of thousands of people finding their partner. Consider tips provided in this article as well as need to feel the internal intuitions.

Tip#1 Choosing Right Online ServiceOnline dating service provides ability to search person of your interest using options such as age, location, interest, income level, living situation, race, appearance and more. There are lot of online dating services available but you need to choose the right one considering quality of service including total numbers of registered members. Both should be balanced. Also, you need to check wither service has privacy trademark or not. By checking privacy trademark gives you trust that your information is safe. It will not be published or shared by service anywhere else. Especially for discreet people it is very important factor. If you are serious about dating & relationship then go for the paid service. Paid service will provide you more flexibility when it comes to the communication interest between you and person who interest you.

Tip# 2 Knowing the PersonOnce you found the person of your interest and got connected through e-mails or chat, start taking baby steps. Never ever give out you phone number in first communication. Try to know more about the person. During chat try gathering as much information as you can and taste the water whether person on the other end is really looking for the relationship. Sometimes people are not sure but just curious about Gay life and gets into it. Once you know the stranger well, decide to talk on phone after few days of chat.

Tip#3 Do Not Share Private Information or Identity:Do not share any kind of information which can be used against you by stranger. Keep certain things inside you until the end. Gay men are very emotional. Be ware, you have rest of your life to share, just keep patience. Try to know about the person through phone talk, communication will give you not whole lot but somewhat idea about the person.

Tip#4 Decide To Meet In Public:After few days of talking on phone, if person interest you then decide to meet in public place and arrange for the date. Whether you are going to meet for a coffee or lunch or dinner, Please decide to meet in public place rather then going to stranger’s place. Make sure to inform one of your best friends about your date including meeting place if possible. During date do not forget to know about sexual history about HIV & STD as it is very common in Gay culture.

Tip#5 Never End Up In Bed on First DateNo Way Jose! Never ever end up your first date in bed. This will end up in one night stand. Try to keep your date curious about you as long as you can. Being gay man you should know the characteristic of man. Every man has one thing in mind & once he gets you, will be less interest for him. Save this asset until you guys are really into each other. Stop Here! You must visit Gay Online Dating Services Reviews before you start your partner search online. Leo has good reviews along with special promotions on dating memberships, Find your love now !

Free Guidelines to Worry-Free Dating.

Invented by an innovative dating service entrepreneur, Jewish speed dating has become a phenomenon in the singles world. It takes careful coordination, a large member base in the immediate and surrounding area and a lot of work on the part of the dating service to pull it off and make it successful. Do you friends consider you a matchmaker? Do you have at least one couple you are friends with whom you set up? If you care about couples and are the matchmaking type, you could be next in line for your own business.
Communication in dating is essential. Not only do you need to know what your date needs and desires, you also need to know how those things play into your life. Don?t get angry with your date if he hasn?t fulfilled your every need if you didn?t communicate those needs to him in the first place.
How to overcome online dating problems It is exciting to meet in real life someone you have only met at an online dating service. However, you must practice cautionary measures so as to avoid having problems. The following are some guidelines to worry-free dating.

1. When meeting, do make arrangements first. Since you barely know the person, do not let them meet you at your home.

2. Meet in public places. If it is okay with your date, you could ask another pair or some friends to go with you. If your date is genuine in his or her interests, this shouldn?t be a problem.

3. If you are having a lunch or dinner in a caf? or restaurant, you should pay half of the bill. Thus, you are free from obligations that you have to meet the person again.

4. If you have your own car, you should use it. Do not rely on a date?s car so that you won?t feel that you have to ride with him or her if the date turns awry.

5. Try to avoid alcoholic drinks dring your time together.

Find out more about married dating today!

Free Tips on How to Make Him Crazy in Love With You

If there's a special man in your life and you want to make him crazy in love with you, how exactly do you do that? The answer doesn't involve hanging on his every word or altering your life to accommodate his. The truth is that the old standard advice of playing hard to get does have merit, but it needs a new twist to make it really effective.
If you want to make him crazy in love with you, you have to love yourself first. Men are most drawn to confident women who are in control of their emotions. The biggest mistake that women make when they are trying to get their man to love them more is they make themselves completely available both physically and emotionally to him. They let him know, in no uncertain terms, that they love him and would do anything for him. As much as we women love hearing those words from a man. Men aren't as charmed by them. Men are actually less attracted to you if you are right there in his grasp.
Spend more time with friends if you want to make him crazy in love with you. Make him feel as though he's stealing you away from your life. You want him to feel like the hunter that he is. Make it a little challenging for him and he'll be more drawn in. If you aren't always reachable and available he'll crave you more and more.
Let him talk about himself if you want to make him love you more. If you're too self-centered and keep bringing the conversation back to yourself, he's going to be turned off. Men want to feel valued and appreciated so if you want to make him crazy in love with you, ask him about his life. Ask direct questions and hold his gaze when he's talking. This will help him to see that you are completely interested in what's important to him. If you do this he'll find you irresistible.
Specific things you say and do can make a man feel helplessly drawn to you. If you are convinced he is the one there are things you can do to ensure he only has eyes for you. For more insightful tips about understanding men including a way to get him to fall deeply in love with you, visit this Informative Site!

Warning Signs of an Affair in Your Marriage

There are many warning signs of an affair in a marriage and if you suspect that your spouse is being unfaithful, you'll want proof. People embroiled in adulterous affairs often think they are too clever to be caught, but everyone lets things slip at some point. If you are married to someone who you think may have taken on a lover outside of your marriage, look for these signals that indicate that they are no longer being faithful to you.



One of the most obvious signs of an affair is a change in intimacy within the marriage. At first thought you may believe that someone who is cheating is going to want to be intimate less often. That's actually not always the case. In fact, many men and women who are sleeping with someone else will actually want to make love more often with their spouse. This may be to overcompensate for the guilt they are feeling. If your spouse's interest in sex with you has changed, that's a sign that something else may be at play within your marriage.
The most common form of communication these days is the cell phone. If you suspect that your spouse isn't being faithful pay special attention to their cell phone behavior. It's much safer, in the eyes of the adulterer, to have their lover call their cell. Therefore one of the signs of an affair in your marriage is how your spouse handles those calls. If they repeatedly excuse themselves to use the phone, they are having conversations they don't want you to hear. Also pay more attention at how often they simply ignore calls. If it's happening often chances are good that it's their lover calling and since you are present your spouse obviously can't take that call.
It's often hard to know whether your spouse is indeed committing adultery. Many people can have a long term affair without anyone suspecting a thing. In fact, sixty percent of married men and forty percent of married women will be unfaithful. For telltale signs of a cheating spouse, and how to get irrefutable and undeniable proof of the affair within moments visit this helpful site.
Although the aftermath of finding out whether or not your spouse is cheating can be devastating, it's much better to know. You owe it to yourself and your children to know the truth.

Ways to Last Longer in Bed - Double Your Erotic Endurance With These Little Known Tips

How many men do you know who are NOT looking for ways to last longer in bed? If you've talked to their girlfriends and wives, I'll bet you'll find the answer is NOT many! The simple truth is that the root of MANY sexual problems between men and women are rooted in premature ejaculation, and for many women, it is the foundational cause of a failing sex life. For men....often the baseline problem in sexual self esteem issues that require counseling! Let's quickly examine a few simple tricks you can employ tonight to give yourself BACK the freedom to go the distance.



PC Muscle and Kegel Exercises
Simply stated, much of your ejaculatory control is regulated by the PC muscle, which is located in the pelvis. (ironically - WOMEN have a PC muscles as well!) But one of the proven ways to elongate and amplify a man's endurance is simply to exercise this muscle for enhanced control and restraint. There are a number of simple techniques you can learn, starting with simple elevation, tension and contraction exercises which are designed to "toughen" this muscle and allow you fine grain control over your ejaculatory response! Does it work? It has for TENS of thousands of men around the globe...and it's certainly a simple technique to try tonight!
Step Down and Stay Still Method
Now, there is ONLY so much description I can give here....BUT this method simply requires that you slowly amp down the effort during intercourse in such a way as to rest comfortably in places that have the least amount of friction. You have to remember, that for a man, the most sensitive part of your anatomy is the nerve endings located in the glans, or the top of the penis. If you have a problem with premature ejaculation, this is the primary part of your anatomy that you have to keep away from friction, or stimulation. A woman's anatomy, conversely, grows wider the deeper into her body you become, and for this reason, many therapists will teach that resting in THIS spot, while keeping your body prone remains exciting for her....but leaves you able to allow the sensations to subside, and continue on!
And One Last thing.....Remember:
Women admit that they would prefer a man who COMMUNICATES passionately during sex (which means she wants a little lusty dialogue.., they want you to learn the landscape a bit better ( understand her body) and they PREFER a man who has a powerful anatomy (a thicker penis is preferable). You can improve all three of these with JUST a little effort..and in my experience, the REWARDS they offer are EACH worth their weight in earth shaking orgasmic gold..

Free Tips on How to Know If Your Spouse is Lying to You

Often people feel that their spouse is completely loyal to them because they just don't feel that their spouse can ever cheat on them until it's too late. You see it all starts with doubts and if you don't follow your gut feeling then you might be setting yourself up for tremendous pain. Cheating always tends to start with lies and you can easily catch lies as long as you know the underground ways to really spot a lie in action. The issue is that most people out there don't really know the ways to catch the lie due to which they often stay in relationships where they are constantly being lied to. Read on to discover some of the most effective ways to easily spot a liar.....
Their emotions would seem fake- Does it seem like your spouse is putting on fake emotions when they talk to you? A very obvious indication of fake emotions would be showing very loud expressions on issues which really aren't that big and at the same time maybe showing no reaction at all when normally they would react. Their emotions would more or less not match their words which would be a very obvious give away.
Are they giving you too much unnecessary detail? - This is another very clear sign that you are actually being lied to. You see no matter how good the liar might be he/she always has some doubts about himself/herself when they are lying to you. Therefore in order to cover their fear they would start explaining everything in detail even when there is no such detail required.
Are they just talking too much? - This is another sign of a liar? A liar would start filling in the space with unnecessary conversation because they just want to cover all corners. You see lying makes a normal person do strange things therefore if your spouse doesn't really talk that much and has started talking too much all of a sudden then there is something wrong for sure.
The best possible way to catch your cheating spouse- Do you know that there are some stunning tricks using which you can catch a cheating spouse within seconds? These ways are so effective that they are guaranteed to reveal the truth and end all the lies within seconds.....

Free Tips on How to Catch a Cheating Spouse

Catching a cheating spouse can often be a real challenge especially when you just aren't really sure about what your spouse is really doing behind your back. You might have doubts but at the same time you want to make sure that the relationship does not get affected if your doubts are false. This is the main reason why you must try to catch it in a way where your spouse does not get any clue that you are trying to catch them. Read on to discover the some of the most perfect ways to catch a cheating spouse.....

Do they never answer your question directly- Is your partner always trying to avoid answering any question which might give you a clue that they are doing something behind your back. Do they always change the subject or just try to answer you in an indirect manner which doesn't really answer your question? You see if this is the case then your spouse is definitely trying to hide something from you.
They never have an immediate answer for you- Do they always struggle to answer you right away? You see when your spouse is lying to you or hiding something from you they would always take some time to make up a lie. That's the reason why they would just never have a direct answer for you.
Are they always defensive? - Do they always act highly defensive as if every question you ask is an acquisition towards them? You see when you are actually being cheated on your spouse might always fear the worst due to which their whole attitude would get highly defensive.
The best possible way to catch your cheating spouse- Do you know that there are some stunning tricks using which you can catch a cheating spouse within seconds? These ways are so effective that they are guaranteed to reveal the truth and end all the lies within seconds.....

Foreplay - Free 2 Powerful Tips That Will Give Your Woman Mind-Blowing Orgasms

Foreplay is an important part of the whole lovemaking ritual . Without it, sex in general will become very uncomfortable for both yourself and your partner. Think about it; If your woman is not sufficiently turned on before intercourse, she will be unable to produce enough natural lubrication. This in turn will make intercourse extremely uncomfortable and painful for her.
Let us take a look at 2 tips on how to get the best results out of foreplay;
Time is an extremely important factor when it comes to measuring how successful your foreplay session is between you and your partner. Most experts will tell you that you need to spend at least 20 minutes on kissing, caressing, and stroking all your woman's hot spots. I personally feel that you need to look a little deeper into what they are saying;



In order to really make the most of time, it would make sense to focus on improving the quality of time spent, rather than quality. 20 minutes of aimlessly kissing, caressing, and stroking your woman's hotspots will do noting more than bore her. Instead, you need to make sure that every minute counts. The best way to achieve this is by always having an end goal in terms of what you would like to achieve when seducing or stimulating your woman.
For instance, instead of just kissing your partner for the sake of kissing, decide that you would like to tease her a little instead. The end goal of teasing will be to create a feeling of anticipation in her mind. The feeling of anticipation will increase her levels of desire, which in turn will put your woman on a higher state of arousal.
Another way to increase the value of time during foreplay is by making sure that both you and your partner are enjoying every aspect of it. Think about it; by spending time on foreplay simply because every one says that you have to, makes it a chore. I think you will agree with me that doing chores is not really enjoyable, is it?
By enjoying foreplay, your partner will be more relaxed. This will help her to open her erotic mind, thus helping her to achieve hidden desires more freely.

Free Successful Relationships Tips

The inevitable form of human life is relationships. Every living being is bound by some relation; be it a plant, an animal, or a human being. God has acted wisely to make relationships so that there should be a mutual cooperation amongst His creation. But the term has undergone a drastic change and many relationships are now at a verge to break or have broken. Why there are problems in relations? Why the present state of almost all relationships is grim? Often we try to find out answers, but unfortunately don’t realize that the actual cause is nothing but our own disruptions, stress, and conflicts that we face in our day to day life.
God has manifested a pure form of love completely in human relationships, but human beings often fail to recognize it because of their self centeredness. Now, the question arises how to get successful relationships. The answer is not difficult. It is very easy to get along with most people by trying to understand them with certain psychological facts. We all have feelings, so it is not a hard task to find a right person for your life. We are all willingly or reluctantly bound by the laws of nature and human psychology, so the only important thing is observation, patience, and accepting denials. We don’t like denials of any kind that is the major hindrance for the success of relationships.
To add more, we often behave indifferently because we have experienced trauma or neglect in our past lives. Infact, we analyze or evaluate others by our past experiences. These experiences sometimes do not allow us to deal with good people because we do not want to accept their goodness as we see them in the same light. Therefore, it is essential to introspect and try to limit our perception of people through our past experiences; negative and positive.
Of course, we have to think of the remedy for ourselves and others associated with us, if we really intend to have successful relationships. We should have that kind of emotional intelligence that ensures self-awareness and complete understanding of others. This is the only way, we can really manage relationships. If you want to get best out of a relation, it is better to know that honest and faith plays a vital role in the smooth running of a relation.
It doesn’t matter if the relation is between married couples, family members, lovers, mother and child, best friends or business partners; the main objective of a relationship is to yield the highest good and to eliminate the frictions. This can nourish great relationships. We should recognize their importance in our lives. Why they are in our lives? What we can get from them in real terms? Why we need to grow in our relationships? What we have to learn from them? All these questions definitely will help people to value their relationships and avoid the roadblocks that are likely to hit them. We have to grow in them, rather than cribbing about them all the time.

Free Five Love Tips to Save a Rich Partner, Poor Partner Relationship

In some couples the partners have very different finances because one comes from a wealthy family and/or earns much more than the other. They may also have differences in their understanding of finance, budgets, cash flow, or the importance of saving, investing and planning for the future. Plus they usually have deeper issues and anxieties about the symbolic meaning of money. These dynamics can cause conflict and unhappiness. In fact, if these differences are not handled and resolved they can lead to ongoing money battles and even destroy the relationship.Here are five tips on how to break through the differences and come together as a loving team:
Tips
1. Recognize that money has a symbolic meaning.
Money means different things to each of you. It may represent issues of trust, personal and family security, power, freedom or pleasure. If you battle about money and don’t discover what the real concerns are, you and your partner will just keep fighting the same battle over and over again.
2. Discover the issues underlying conflicts about money.
Take turns interviewing each other like a reporter would. Ask your partner about personal needs, wishes, fears and long-term goals. Don’t make any comments, just ask questions and take notes. As you are being interviewed, don’t hold back, speak your truths and dream big.
3. Look for common goals and a shared vision of the future.
Review each other’s lists and look for the commonalities both in terms of fears and long-term goals. You will be surprised at the similarities. No matter how much wealth you have now, you both may be afraid of losing your lifestyle or being cut-off from the family’s wealth and ending up poor. On the other hand, both of you may want a life filled with children or travel and art but are unable to figure out how to create that future. To manifest this vision brainstorm together as a team.
4. Consider a win-win pre- or post-nuptial agreement.
This contract is designed to handle anxieties and fears. It gives assurance to the less-moneyed spouse that his/her needs will be met in the event of divorce or death. A financial agreement calms the fears of the richer partner because he/she will then not be exploited financially in the event of a bitter separation or divorce.
5. Create and agree on a long-term financial plan.
The long-term financial plan will get you to the future vision you both want to create. Many couples need to create a shared budget with his, hers and shared money to help fulfill these personal and common goals. Even if there is no need for the less-moneyed partner to have an income, it is very important for that person to have his/her own bank account and/or a fulfilling activity or career. These steps lead to greater self-esteem and reduce the power imbalance in the couple. For example, the less well-off partner may want to work for a low paying non-profit that is spiritually gratifying, while the other spouse enjoys working as an investment banker or in the family business and supports their lifestyle together.
You can learn much more about negotiating and resolving financial and other thorny love relationship issues in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love.

Free Tips on How To Fix Broken Relationships

If you are in a relationship that's not working right now at work or home, you're hardly alone. It happens. The question is what are you going to do about it? Some of us get lazy. Rather than roll up our sleeves and get busy, we put on our running shoes instead. We race from one job to another, one relationship to another, only to end up in a similar mess each time. Others of us bury our heads in the sand, in the vain hope that our difficulties will miraculously disappear. Usually, it's the relationship (and sometimes the job) that disappears instead. In either case, we tend to rationalize our part in it all: Well, what could I do? That's just the way men/women/bosses/employees/co-workers/jobs-in-general are.
Here's what you could do: I'm going to give you five tools; five ideas and steps on how to retrieve your ring from the rubble of broken relationships at work and home. The ring represents the opportunity to build better relationships. The rubble represents the hurt, frustration and pain we all have to dig through from time to time. These tools will help you fix your relationships, if you apply them to yourself. Please note: You can't fix anyone else! If you want others to pick up these tools, then be a role model and pick them up first.



1. Preventive maintenance: Treat those you know best like strangers. Often we treat perfect strangers better than we treat the people we live and work with everyday. Kind of crazy when you think about it, so here's the first tool to try: treat those you know best like strangers. That means being polite, regularly saying please and thank you, and perhaps biting your tongue occasionally. It means doing the little things that can make a big difference, like dressing nicely at home, not just at work; holding doors open; making eye contact; smiling; and picking up after your self, instead of complaining about those who leave the kitchen or break room a mess. Extending common courtesies to all is akin to preventive maintenance: it sustains relationships before they break, thereby reducing the need for extensive (and maybe expensive) repairs later.
2. Swallow your pride and learn how to say 'I'm sorry.' For some of us, this one is hard to do. For all of us, it's incredibly important. Grievances, imagined or not, remain unresolved when we can't, or don't, chose to express remorse for our part in helping to create them. All manner of things may get in our way of saying we're sorry: ego; a need to be right; ignorance; and arrogance. In addition, in The Five Languages of Apology, authors Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas point out that sometimes, even though we may think we've apologized, we haven't been understood. They teach us that we all have an apology language: some need to hear "I'm sorry." For others, words mean little; it's action that counts. We have to learn what our language of apology is, and what language others speak, to be effective in this arena. Learning to say 'I'm sorry' is a skill that can be learned: learn it.
3. Repeating your point won't get you heard, but listening to theirs will. Often, we scream at each other across the rubble that divides us, versus working to collectively remove it. We get so caught up in our need to justify our actions, prove others wrong, and to dazzle with our logic that we lose track of the outcome we are after - a stronger relationship. You already know your point of view. Repeating it over and over (or louder and louder) is not likely going to make others suddenly agree with you. In fact, just the opposite is more likely: They'll argue with you even if they agree with what you're saying! As Stephen Covey taught us in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People we should seek first to understand, then to be understood. Most of us will listen if we feel heard. So ask questions. Listen to their answers. Ask questions to understand, not judge. Regular use of this tool will help keep small relationship problems from escalating into bigger ones, and help to more quickly resolve those that may already have.
4. Figure out who wants it more and then let go. Usually, like a stream carving a canyon, it's the little things that wear relationships down over time. Whether its fights at home over a messy household, or fussing at work about keeping the break room or workstation tidy, these minor nuisances play a major role in decaying goodwill over time. When there is a disagreement about how to go about something, e.g. whether to fly or drive for vacation, whether to visit or call the client, go with the person who has the most energy over the issue. If it matters more to them than you, do it their way. Stop turning pebbles into boulders. If both parties in a relationship use this tool, it helps maintain equanimity over time. Neither of you will feel like you have to always give in, or play a game of tit for tat. By definition, you'll only be letting go of stuff that in the end does not matter as much to you as it does to them, so what's the difference? Let it go.
Have goals together and you'll grow together. Relationships are dynamic, moving, changing organisms, because people are. When we stop growing together, that's when we start dying together. It's easy to fall into relationship ruts. We assume we know everything there is to know about someone and we stop learning, or even paying attention, to who they are now. If they change or grow, we don't notice. If their skill set expands at work it's invisible to us. It's like being in relationship with a picture of a person, rather than with the person themselves. Having a purpose, a goal, a challenge you are pursuing together, will help maintain forward momentum in all of your relationships. Focusing on setting goals and meeting challenges together renders rubble as incidental. Pursuing mutual goals may even transform rubble into stepping-stones that lead to personal growth, enhanced mutual understanding and a shared sacrifice that ultimately draws you closer together.
A Final Word
Relationships, like all living things, need to be nurtured and replenished over time. Stop tending your garden and the weeds will grow; so too in your relationships. And, most importantly, if you have a relationship that needs some work, look in the mirror. That's where the healing and the work need to begin.

Cheating Spouse ? - Avoid These Five Mistakes

If you think you have a cheating spouse, you should avoid the following five crucial mistakes at all costs. All too often when you get caught up in the downward spiral of suspicions, it clouds your ability to keep yourself objective; something that you need to be if you want to get to the truth.
If you already find yourself to have made one or more of these mistakes with your spouse, it does not mean that it makes it impossible to find out the truth about possible infidelity, but it does make getting to the truth that much harder.

While your instincts are powerful, it is by no means conclusive - So leaving or separating with your partner should not be your first move, but a last resort. If you feel that your spouse is having an affair, you will be in a position to gather much better clues and evidence of them being unfaithful than if you are apart because of a hasty decision on your part.
Do not spread the word based on your suspicions - While it is natural and perfectly understandable that you want to get your heavy thoughts off your chest, and confide in friends and family, you should do so with caution. There are two reasons for this. One is that you need to make sure that the person you choose to confide in will not gossip in any way and spread the word, and may be ultimately lead to your spouse knowing. Secondly, it is not uncommon that your cheating spouse is involved with the very friend that you are confiding in. Hard, I know - but it happens all the time.
Don't pretend to be ignorant - As traumatic and emotionally draining it is to find you are living with a cheating spouse, pretending to ignore it and go into denial is the worst thing you can do. It is probably the most harmful way to deal with the difficult situation. When you choose to ignore your partners' infidelity, you are giving the impression of a silent approval. Your spouse will start to feel comfortable with continuing the secret relationship.
Wasting your time on the other person - This is a huge mistake, and all too common. This is especially true when a woman feels her husband is cheating on her. The desire to know more about the other person is overwhelming for some, and stems from an uncontrollable anger. Repeatedly questioning your spouse about the other person, and dragging them into every situation and conversation will only make him closer to her. Belittling and confronting or threatening the lover to back off from your husband or wife, will only them defensive and closer together.
The sanity of mind is in the proof - Last but not least, is the biggest mistake you must avoid when you think your spouse is cheating on you, is to confront him or her without any real proof of their cheating ways. Without having any real evidence, confronting your partner will result in a continual cycle of hurt, suspicions and betrayal.
The important thing to remember is to keep yourself calm despite facing the adversity and suspicions of a cheating spouse, as the only way forward is to find the proof followed by a well thought out decision on whether you will leave your partner or choose to rebuild your marriage and relationship.

Free Tips with 5 Ways to Save Your Relationship

Even though some breakups seem to come out of the blue, it can be just as painful, or even more so, when you and your partner no longer love one another. Is compromising or budging something neither of you will do because your are both equally bull-headed? If you have that dreaded feeling that a break-up is around the corner, there are several things you can do in order to try to save the relationship.



1. Put an end to the blame game.
The blame often goes to the other partner when the relationship starts to sour. He never pays attention to what I say. She is always so cold towards me. Couldn't he do something nice for me once in a while? I might do more for her if she would just quit nagging me. Blaming the other party only causes defensiveness and does nothing to help the relationship. Begin to accept your partner for who they are instead complaining about who they are not.
2. Lose the neediness.
It is not healthy to always want your partner around to do things. One of the main reasons couples break up is dependency issues. You should understand that personal time away from each other is normal and healthy. If you want to be with your partner all of the time, take the hint -- you need to find some outside interests.
3. Do you communicate?
Communication is the key to a good relationship. When you find that the only way you communicate is through arguments, sarcastic comments, and snide remarks, it's time to stop because you are not communicating, you are merely being demeaning and disrespectful. Why speak to someone you love that way when you would not speak that way to your friends or colleagues?
4. Quit paying mind to false convictions.
Do you imagine negative scenarios related to what your partner is thinking about or doing? Are you listening to those voices in your head that tell you that your partner doesn't care when they do not drop everything the minute you need them? By listening to false beliefs you only poison your view of reality.
5. Do you listen well?
Do you pay attention to and take an interest in your partner's interests? Do you give them a fair chance by listening to their side of any disagreements you have? Sometimes the need to be right causes us to stop listening. When a problem comes up, try to talk in a normal voice and listen to what your partner has to say. You could be missing out on something very important -- and no, you do not always know everything.
There are some relationships that will never change, even if you follow the advice outlined here. If that is the case, then your relationship is really suffering and you probably need some time away from each other. Use this time to achieve clarity about your situation so you can finally make a decision as to what you really want.

How to Stop Your Break Up

Unlike other breakups that seem to be expected or come from nowhere, it can be extremely hard being in a loveless relationship, trying to figure out if you should work on the relationship, or bear the pain of breaking up. Does it seem that whenever there is conflict between you and your partner, that neither of you are able to compromise nor find common ground to work out a happy medium? If you feel like your relationship is coming to an end and the break up seems inevitable, here are a couple of things you can try to salvage it.
#1 Stop playing the blame game.
It is all too common and easy that when relationship problems strike, to blame our partner rather than looking at ourselves for the fault. He is not interested at all anymore in what I have to say. She's always so distant. Would it be too much to ask, for once, if he could just do something nice for me for a change. If she could just stop complaining I might do more things for her. By blaming your partner, it will only lead to them being on the defense. First you must love your significant other and accept them for who they are; you should avoid focusing on what they lack.
#2 Stop being so clingy.
Depending on your partner to do everything with you is a very serious habit that should not be developed. When you're too dependent on your partner, it's very common for a break up to occur. It's important to know that you and your partner need time apart, and you don't need them to run around on errands with you. It is not healthy to want to be with your partner all the time, it can be advantageous to both yourself and the relationship to find and enjoy hobbies that you can do on your own, outside of the relationship.
#3 How are you communicating with your partner?
In a healthy relationship, communication needs to be priority. Arguments, snide remarks and sarcastic comments are not effective forms of communication between you and your loved one, as these comments can be hurtful and are extremely disrespectful and demeaning to your significant other and may cause other problems. It is extremely inappropriate to speak to friends or colleagues that way, so why do you find it acceptable to address your loved one in that manner?
4. Stop listening to the negatives.
Are you always assuming that you know what your partner is thinking or doing? If your partner doesn't cater to your every whim, do you convince yourself that they don't love you? Stop going with your negative beliefs because they are not reality.
#5 Are you paying attention to your partner?
Are you showing an interest in your partner and what he or she likes? Do they have a fair chance when giving you their side of the argument? A lot of the time, we need to be right and don't listen to what they're saying. The next time you disagree, try using a normal tone of voice and listen to your partner's point of view. No one is right all the time, and by not listening carefully you might be missing something important.
When the above actions fail and do not make any significant changes in the communication aspect of the relationship, it may be time for something more drastic. Time apart is recommended when a relationship has been pushed to its breaking point and both parties involved are suffering. Take this time, clear your head and decide what it is that you really want.

Are You Making Your Partner Break Up With You?

Sometimes a break up can catch you by surprise, but it's actually just as bad, if not worse, to be trapped in a relationship where neither person is in love any longer. Are both of you so insistent on being right that you can't give in? If you think your relationship is in trouble but cannot conceive of the inevitable, here are some things you might want to consider trying so you might be able to save it.



#1 Don't put all the blame on your partner.
All too often, we blame our significant others when things are going poorly in a relationship. He doesn't pay attention to what I'm saying. She shuts me out. Why doesn't he do nice things for me? I would do things for her if she did not bother me so much about them. It doesn't help anything when you blame your partner for the things that are going wrong. It just makes them defensive. Begin appreciating your partner for who they are instead of who you want them to be.
#2 Don't be so clingy.
It doesn't make for a healthy relationship when you cling to your partner constantly. Dependency is the cause of a large number of breakups. In a healthy relationship, your partner should want time on their own, and you should be okay with doing some things by yourself. If you are being especially needy and always want your partner around, it should be a clue to you that you need to develop other interests.
#3 How is your communication?
A vital part of any good relationship is good communication. Arguments, sarcastic comments, and snide remarks inhibit communication because they are demeaning and disrespectful. If you would not treat a friend like that, why would you treat a loved one that way?
#4 Stop trying to read your partner's mind.
Do you try to read your partner's mind and project thoughts that might not be true at all? You might think that your partner doesn't care for you just because they didn't immediately come to your rescue. If you keep paying attention to those voices in your head, you will only become more bitter.
#5 Have you been paying attention?
Do you pay attention to the things your partner is involved in? Do you pay attention to what they are saying and try to take it to heart? There are times when we are so insistent that we are right that we can't hear anything else. When you encounter another conflict, do not raise your voice -- instead, listen to your partner. You might hear something that is important, and you might find out that you are not always right.
Even if you do everything listed above, it might not be enough to really change your relationship. If you reach that conclusion, you will have to take time away from the relationship. You can use this chance to get a better look at things and then make a final decision.