Saturday, October 4, 2008

Refresh making up relationship with Ex

Working with your ex is a situation no one wants to face. But with the following excellent advice, you and your ex will soon be best workmates without that underlying tension.
Steps
Be professional. Whatever is going on in your love life, from 9-5 your mind should be on your job? Don't dwell on the reasons for your break up, its over - move on. Stop staring longingly at them with tears in your eyes, and restrain yourself from scrawling insults over their desk. From this moment on see that person as a colleague, just like everyone else in your workplace.



Talk it out. Discreetly take your ex to one side away from prying eyes. State that what's past is past, it will be difficult but you are looking forward to being workmates. Mention that this is important for both your jobs and your happiness. If they don't share your mature attitude don't stoop to their level, don't give each other the cold shoulder, or even worse, mud slinging in the office is not going to make either of you look good. The more normal you act, the more likely they are going to follow suit.
Avoid sensitive topics. Wounds may still be raw so don't rub them. It's wise not to flirt with the new temp in their presence, or start reminiscing about what a great time you had in Ibiza or the Bahamas together last year. And never, ever bring up the break-up - unless you want to relive it one last time.
Don't spread the details with other colleagues. Misery attracts company. Mentioning you are having issues with your ex will see the whole sorry episode picked over again and again by your gossip hungry colleagues and they may even begin to take sides, creating something that isn't there. Less scurrilous workmates might feel excluded or embarrassed by your situation and will try to keep away from you. Keep your affairs to yourself and prevent your life being turned into the office soap opera. Give it time. Don't expect to immediately have the same working rapport with your ex as you have with your other colleagues. It will take time but eventually you may develop an even better relationship. Now get back to work!
Tips
You may need to discuss the break-up very generally with your supervisor if asked. If this happens, be very discreet and circumspect and only give enough information to reassure your supervisor that the two of you will behave maturely in the office and place work before anything else.
Indeed, life is short. Don't let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.
I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.
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