To me, this is the main problem boomers face when dating. They've become so set in their ways that they tend to close down, refusing to let fresh ideas in. We should all be open to other people's suggestions and ways of doing things. Should we ever compromise our principles or core beliefs? Bite your tongue! But we also shouldn't turn people away by being overly rigid and "Lydia-like."
A few other tips that come to mind are:
Gauge how much the other person wants to talk about ex relationships and act accordingly. If he/she seems to want to get things out in the open, go for it. Maybe, once everything's out, there'll be no need to look at it ever again.
You love your children, and you should! But if you talk about them NON STOP, it's as though you've brought them along for the date. If you aren't careful, you and your date will soon be surrounded by ex-lovers, children, pets, in-laws, lawyers, and friends. That's too crowded to even breath, let alone create a new relationship.
Look your best at all times. Whether you're running for the Sunday paper, to Starbucks for a latte, or visiting the dentist - if you're in dating's warm waters again, you should be ready to dive at all times.
Be well-read. Be sure you're able to talk about more things than just your family, work, or (even) episodes of House. Be sure to keep up with the news and current events. Broaden your horizons - learn new things, take up new hobbies, play new games, etc. The more you're able to do, the more interesting you'll be.
Take good care of yourself. Eat right and get plenty of exercise, rest, and fresh air. Make health a priority.
Most of all - enjoy yourself! As a genral rule, when
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